"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
So I basically love words. I love to talk. To write. To listen. And to text (last month's bill would tell you I love it a little too much). And it's interesting, because even though we use them all the time, I think we forget what power they have. What we say, to ourselves and to others, is a big reflection of how we are feeling with ourselves.
It's mostly easy to talk nice with others. Mom and Pop raised us to be polite, so even when you want to give the mean girl the perfect comeback, you know to bite your tongue. But think about what you say to yourself in your head. Do you nag? Do you (silently) yell at yourself, or tell yourself you're not good enough? For most girls, the answer would be yes, at least sometimes. We would never talk to anyone else that way, so why is it okay to do it to ourselves?
I read an article in Self, about a woman who named that voice in her head Stan. Stan was a short, bald meanie who had nothing better to do than belittle her. It sounds a little nuts, but it helped her to separate that voice. Eventually she was able to talk back to Stan. It can be hard to confront ourselves, but you have to remember - those mean thoughts saying we're too fat or too dumb or too lazy are NOT facts. They are simply a reflection of how you are feeling right now.
I saw in this book, The Southern Guide to Flirting (don't ask), that you need to talk yourself up, because no one but your mother will do it for you. While I don't think you need to go around singing your praises to the world, it can be good to think about doing so to yourself. No one can say or do anything to make you feel good about yourself for long if you don't already.
I'm not saying you need to think of Stan or talk back to yourself, exactly (although i thought her plan was genious, if not a little crazy). But do think about your words, and what they mean. Why would you say that to yourself, if you wouldn't let anyone else talk to you that way? It might surprise you, Fab Gals, but just because you think those things, doesn't make them true. Maybe you deserve some compliments for a change. I know you are totally beautiful and smart and absolutely Fab, but you need to say it yourself.
