"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
I went and saw He's Just Not That Into You just about a week before Valentine's Day. And after seeing it, I was curious about the book, so I checked it out. Now, the guy giving the advice in this book is very straightforward. Blunt. Maybe even a little rigid. I mean, after each girl's story about her guy dilemma he says the very same thing: You shouldn't lower your standards. Don't take any "excuse." Don't wait around for him. Why? He's just not that into you.
But as I was reading it, I thought, Okay, now that's got to be a little extreme. I mean, aren't girls allowed to be bold, ask the guy out? Isn't it a good thing to be patient? Hey, I've done those things before. And I certainly didn't think I was lowering my standards. Then again...none of those things really worked out.
And today, I got this weird text from a guy I kinda liked at the beginning of the year. It was a little mean. Well, at least I felt bad when I read it. At first I thought, What's so wrong with me that I attract guys like this? Then I started to feel guilty, like maybe I really had done something wrong, and this is my fault, I really should have been more sensitive.
Woah, girl. That's where I stopped and realized what Greg (that's the author) was talking about. I deserve better. I do not deserve to be made to feel bad or guilty or like I'm the one with the problem. Where does he think a relationship would go from that? So, I don't know, I really wouldn't call myself the relationship expert. But I guess I just think you always need to go with that gut check, and remember that if you feel wrong, that's probably not how it's supposed to go. Relationships are for boosting you up. So "He's just not that into you"? Honey, please. Try "I'm just not that into him."
