"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
You know, I tend to think that I am always right. More than I will admit. More than I even realize myself, probably. I think I also know pretty darn well how it is to let your heart and your feelings lead and your logic follow. That's just how I am.
But I realized something today for the first time. Your feelings aren't always an accurate picture of how things are. Feeling confused doesn't mean that things are going wrong. Feeling worried doesn't mean that you have problems. And feeling bad doesn't mean that you are. Sometimes feelings are just that - how you are seeing the situation, not how it really is.
Of course, there are times when things happen that make us feel badly, and in those cases we need to speak up and do something about it. But other times, we have to recognize that our feelings might not match at all. And then we either need to accept them for what they are, or find some healthy way to deal with them - talking, journaling, drawing, anything. Sure, that acceptance doesn't come easily, but in the long run, it will save you over a band-aid solution to "fix" something that isn't really a problem - like trying to lose weight or become someone else.
If you need help, find someone close to you. Sometimes having a second perspective is all you need for a double-check on where your feelings are headed.
