"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
I think that everyone at some time has looked in the mirror and said to themselves, "Oh, I look so gross today," or maybe groaned to a friend, "I feel fat!" Okay, maybe not everyone, at least I hope not, but it does seem to be pretty common. I remember once hearing it referred to as another language - of fat talk. And if you think about it, that makes a lot of sense. There's all kinds of languages - gossip, diet talk. And it's so easy to pick up on - especially on the news and TV, these are hot topics. Is that really a problem? Maybe not. Until it becomes a way of speaking, not just a passing idea.
You see, sometimes these things that we say are just one way of saying something else. Fat is not actually a feeling. So I hear. I know that can seem hard to believe -like, No, but I really really do feel fat. But that's just what you think in translation.
So how do you make the switch? It's starts with just being aware, and thinking, Okay, what's really the sitch? Because focusing on dieting or weight or looks as a solution only makes sense when you think that you are feeling "fat" or "ugly." But what if you were really feeling sad, scared, worried, or worthless? Well, then you would probably have to find another solution, beyond dieting. But of course, that just does not seem as easy sometimes.
Switching from diet talk, fat talk, gossip talk, or any other type of harmful talk is hard, especially when you've become a native speaker. I know. Moving to a place of appreciating yourself and listening to what you would actually say if you weren't saying it in those ways is difficult. But it's a trip worth making.
