There she is. That Girl. She's drop-dead gorgeous, and she has a wardrobe you'd be equally willing to die for. Or maybe it's not so much a physical thing. Maybe she's got a way of working a crowd, or straight-A's you just can't quite ever spell out. But you're pretty sure she's got Everything (or at least, Everything You Want). Yep. You think you would almost hate her for it. Except that you never could. She's your best friend.
Whenever we talk about envy, and wanting something that someone else has, we always imagine that people will aspire to what a supermodel or somebody on TV has. And maybe sometimes, in our wildest dreams, we do. But a lot of times, the things we truly want are more real. So what happens if we become maybe a little envious of our sister, our cousin, or our BFF?
If we were talking about a celebrity or even a girl at school we don't know, it's easy to just shake it off and imagine that maybe she hasn't really earned all the good things she's got, that it's just not fair. But when it's a person you love, it just feels horrible. You know they should have great things. Why can't you just be happy for them? What's wrong with you, anyway?
The one thing I've figured is this: it just doesn't help. Being envious, wanting what someone else has, doesn't not make you a bad person. Not at all. But it will never make you feel very good, or even help get you where you want to be (because believe it or not, feeling bad doesn't make us work any harder). Most of all, it will make it harder for you to feel good for that person and enjoy them like you deserve. Because both of you deserve that. 
So try, try, try to remember that when you are in the envy zone. Because really, there are no comparisons. We're all different, and we all have different things at different times. But we really are all Fab Gals. I really believe that. You've just got to remember that you'll get where you want to be. You'll just have to do it your own way.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: advice, envy, fab gal, friendships, girls, relationships, self esteem, teens |
