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Wednesday, March 25, 2009 |
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| No Excuses Necessary, But... |
Hey FGs!
Let me paint a picture for you: You're standing in front of the mirror, wearing an outfit you've never worn before. But this time, you think you see something you've never noticed before - the way your stomach sticks out, or maybe how wide your hips seem. You start to worry what's happening to your body. A bunch of excuses and reasons come into your mind - you haven't been working out enough, you had too much junk food on spring break. Then those excuses lead to Hmm, maybe I should go on a diet?...
Have you been in this place before? I know I have. And I've decided that the excuses are the red flag that you're heading down a dangerous path. When you hear yourself saying, "Oh, it's because I ate that pizza" or something like that, hold on. Back up. I think it makes so much sense when we are in that moment, but you have to realize the farther you go picking apart your body, the farther you are letting yourself move away from accepting yourself. That's not where you want to go.
So don't let yourself make any excuses. you don't need 'em. Next time you hear one, backtrack and remind yourself that you are too busy, fabulous, and beautiful to listen to such nonsense.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: acceptance, body image, fab gal, girls, self esteem, self-talk, teens |
posted by Fab Gal @ 8:35 PM   |
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Wednesday, March 11, 2009 |
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| Acceptance is an Everybody Thing |
Hello FGs!
So you know how I am - I always get a kick out of crazy new experiences. Well, yesterday brought me one: going to my first Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Not for me, but for a school project. And this experience? One of my best yet.
I'll be honest - I think going into it I had this picture in my mind of what alcoholics are like, and maybe not a pretty one at that. I think that happens a lot though, for things we don't know much about. But hey, the only way we learn is by jumping in, no?
Each person stood up and said, "Hey, I'm so-and-so, and I'm an alcoholic." That part was just like the movie in my head. But the rest? The rest was so real. Everyone talked about struggling with themselves, and using some harmful solutions that didn't work out too well, and continuing to fight and struggle until they could just accept it. There it is - acceptance. That oh-so-difficult simple solution for all of us movers and shakers out here.
You know, I really do think so many of us struggle with that. And now I've seen it. Believe me - every person in the room was so different from the next, and so different from me. But we were all just at different places in the same journey - the journey to just being okay, to not feeling the need to change who we are or hurt ourselves or lash out. To just be able to live and love it. Why is that so hard? We all deserve it. And a few people sitting in the room, they'd found it. And me? Well, I'm going to keep looking for the answers. For you. For me. Because, FG, we deserve it.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: acceptance, alcohol, fab gal, new experiences, self esteem |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:47 PM |
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Friday, January 16, 2009 |
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| Written on Your Hand |
Hello FGs!
It was one of those days: I was squishing my face in the mirror (sometime between tooth brushing and eyebrow plucking, I believe), deciding what new flaws had popped up. I don't know where I picked up this routine - nobody is ever that close to my face, and if they were, well, I guess they would either be kissed or slapped. Anyways, on this day I decided that one of my front teeth was longer than the other, and they were kinda a different color on the bottom.
Later that day, I went to get my palm read. Before you write me off, I'm really not this crazy, superstitious chick. But I have to try everything once, and I was really curious about this. And I was shocked at how amazingly accurate it was. I obviously don't know if the part about my future was true, but everything the palm reader said about my personality was spot-on.
Even though I should have been happy to know that I would get the job I want, find my soulmate, and live to 86, I was stuck. Everything I know is true, he said - I can be stubborn, and overly energetic to the point of being fidgety or impatient. And apparently, I will be 12 for the rest of my life (I still don't know what that means!). Great. So all of my flaws are written out on my hand for anyone to see. And then I realized that in thinking this way, I was doing the exact same thing I was doing in front of the mirror - picking out every little flaw. And blowing it up with a magnifying glass. Now, I think that a big part of self-acceptance comes from knowing what your flaws are, and being okay with them. But at the same time, turning those negatives into the whole picture won't make you happy, and it isn't even realistic. I mean, really - being young and energetic for the rest of my life? Not such a bad thing. xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: acceptance, fab gal, girls, life lessons, self esteem, self-confidence, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 11:32 AM |
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