"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
I've never been able to figure it out, but boys have some kind of magical power, don't they? I mean, I've seen the most confident, totally Fab girls turn into an insecure mess at the drop of a text (okay, myself included). One of the most difficult questions is, Why didn't he call (or text/message/IM) back? I don't speak fluent Boy, but I can attempt to translate this one for you. So before you freak and send a message you'll regret or move to China, let's discuss the possibilities.
First off, if you didn't send it long ago, give it time. He just may not have gotten your message/text/whatever yet. So you're a tuned-in chick, but he may not be as tech-savvy as you are. Just wait a little - you may be worried for nothing!
Secondly, he may have read it and forgotten. I know: ouch. But remember, boys are wired differently than us. A lot differently, and what is completely important and totally unforgivable to you may have gone completely over his head. For example, a "Hey, what's up?" text may mean "Call me, talk to me, like me" to you, but to him it probably read like this: "Hey, what's up?" I know, right?
Another situation: you asked him to hang out, and he says he thinks he has plans. Um, hello? Why doesn't he get that you're basically asking him to ask you out? Like I said, boys don't read into things as deeply as we do. They are more direct, and he may just take it like he would if one of his guy friends asked him to hang out. It sounds bad, but this is definitely fixable. It's time to step up the flirting a notch. You don't need to jump in his lap or polish up the Legally Blondebend-and-snap, but throw in a flirty tease and be confident if you can.
Lastly, and I hate to say it's a possibility, but... maybe he's just not into you like that. It sucks, I know, but seriously? You don't need to waste any of your precious time. Don't take it as a personal insult, because you really can't know what's going on in his brain. Besides, would you really wanna bf that rarely returns your calls and doesn't appreciate your total Fab-ness? Sorry, Charlie. Chalk it up to his loss and move on.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
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