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Friday, June 5, 2009 |
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| Hearts A-Twitter |
Hey FGs!
Taylor Swift does it from the studio, Demi Lovato does it to Perez Hilton, and David Archuleta does it before crawls into bed at night. Twittering. I'd been hearing a lot about it, how the whole world is "tweeting" these days. Except me, apparently I'll admit, I wasn't so into the idea at first. So you just, like, read what people are doing? Shouldn't I just worry about what I'm doing before I go around following everybody else?
But of course, I had to try it for myself. And it IS fascinating. I mean, you can keep up with what your friends - including, you know, Miley Cyrus and Jordin Sparks - are up to. And anyone with a phone can tweet from anywhere at any time. Not saying that you should, of course. But you could, if you wanted to.
So, I don't know. I can see why people say that maybe our technological connections have gone a little too far these days. But as long as you tweet nicely, I think it can be fun. I mean, staying in touch with celeb crushes 24/7? Count me in! You can keep up with my Twitter adventures at www.twitter.com/thefabgal.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: celebrities, communication, fab gal, twitter |
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Wednesday, May 20, 2009 |
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| Put Down the Duck Tape, Back Away From the Cell Phone |
Hey Fab Gals! Being a teenager, you get faced with a lot of difficult communication situations. Speaking to someone in a language you're just learning - difficult. Winning an argument with your parents - pretty hard. But getting a boy to understand you? Ouch. I think we hav  e a winner. It's so strange. Even though girls are getting more chances to play with the big boys, it seems like we still reign from completely different universes. T had broken up with her boyfriend. They left it open-ended, in that let's-be-friends-and-maybe-something-more-someday stage (dangerous territory, if you ask me). T tried to manage a friendly relationship, but her ex kept telling her that they shouldn't see each other at all. "What can I do?" she asked. "He's not listening to me!" She kept trying different ways of saying the same thing. And so did he. Things kept on a plane, but they both got more and more frustrated. Of course, as she pointed out, there were options. She could spend hours crafting the perfect novel of a text message to say exactly what would make him understand that she wanted to be with him. Or, she could get her guy friend to duck tape him to a tree, so she could scream at him till she had enough. Both would be extreme (obviously) - but probably not effective. See, I think of it like sunglasses. Everyone sees, or hears, things through their own filters. It's not just a boy-girl thing. I think that's what happens when people argue. We get so set on what we see or hear from someone that we don't exactly listen. Unfortunately, you can't force any boy (or any person) to see, hear, listen to, or understand you. At some point, it's probably best to just walk away. I promise, there's some Prince Charming out there dying to hang on your every word. xoxo
The Fab Gal Labels: advice, boys, communication, fab gal, relationships, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:32 PM |
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Monday, December 1, 2008 |
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| Mixed Messages |
Hey FGs!
ttyl. lol. jk! Texting, IM, Facebook, & Myspace. These days, technology has become a huge part of how we communicate. A much smaller part is done face to face, or even voice to voice. Don't get me wrong - I think technology is awesome. We can talk ot whoever whenever about everything and anything. But sometimes, this way of communicating can have its downfalls.
The tricky part is that a lot is lost when you aren't seeing or hearing someone speak. Body language and tone of voice give us cues about what a person means. Of course, it's hard to mix messages when the conversation is about something straightforward, like making plans for the weekend or what's on the next test. But if you're trying to deal with bigger issues via the internet or texting, it's bound to get sticky.
I've known people who use e-mails or texting to deal with conflict, because they feel like they won't be able to say what they want to say if they try to do it in person. To be honest, I've done it myself. Once, I was so mad at one of my friends because I heard that he had lied to me. I wasn't sure how I could deal with him the next morning at school, so I sent him a message saying how hurt and angry I was. I thought it was well-written enough, but we got nowhere. We both kept repeating ourselves, and nothing got resolved. Looking back, I think all of that confusion might have been avoided had we just decided to have a real talk.
While saying things out loud isn't always easy, it's usually better. It's easier to be clear about what you mean, and it will save you from misunderstandings or accidentaly stepping on someone's toes - and it's way quicker. Plus, you won't have to worry about someone clicking "forward" on a message you regret. Most of all, people will respect you for being open, even when it's difficult. That's the FG way.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: communication, fab gal, problem solving, technology |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 7:17 AM |
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Friday, August 8, 2008 |
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| Oh, Boy |
Ciao Fab Gals!
I've never been able to figure it out, but boys have some kind of magical power, don't they? I mean, I've seen the most confident, totally Fab girls turn into an insecure mess at the drop of a text (okay, myself included). One of the most difficult questions is, Why didn't he call (or text/message/IM) back? I don't speak fluent Boy, but I can attempt to translate this one for you. So before you freak and send a message you'll regret or move to China, let's discuss the possibilities.
First off, if you didn't send it long ago, give it time. He just may not have gotten your message/text/whatever yet. So you're a tuned-in chick, but he may not be as tech-savvy as you are. Just wait a little - you may be worried for nothing!
Secondly, he may have read it and forgotten. I know: ouch. But remember, boys are wired differently than us. A lot differently, and what is completely important and totally unforgivable to you may have gone completely over his head. For example, a "Hey, what's up?" text may mean "Call me, talk to me, like me" to you, but to him it probably read like this: "Hey, what's up?" I know, right?
Another situation: you asked him to hang out, and he says he thinks he has plans. Um, hello? Why doesn't he get that you're basically asking him to ask you out? Like I said, boys don't read into things as deeply as we do. They are more direct, and he may just take it like he would if one of his guy friends asked him to hang out. It sounds bad, but this is definitely fixable. It's time to step up the flirting a notch. You don't need to jump in his lap or polish up the Legally Blonde bend-and-snap, but throw in a flirty tease and be confident if you can.
Lastly, and I hate to say it's a possibility, but... maybe he's just not into you like that. It sucks, I know, but seriously? You don't need to waste any of your precious time. Don't take it as a personal insult, because you really can't know what's going on in his brain. Besides, would you really wanna bf that rarely returns your calls and doesn't appreciate your total Fab-ness? Sorry, Charlie. Chalk it up to his loss and move on.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
PS - I would love to hear your ideas, FGs, because this site is all for you. What do you want to hear more (or less) about? E-mail me at fabgalstite@gmail.com or post a comment at The Fab Gal Myspace.Labels: boys, communication, dating, fab gal, relationships |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 8:18 AM |
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