So we've all known them. Maybe they're not as scary as The Plastics, but you heard they made a girl cry. And everybody talks about them, but not to their face - hello, they're the mean girls! You're pretty sure they don't have a nice bone in their body.
Believe me, I've known plenty of them. Those girls always scare me - I always feel like less around them. But when I was at camp this summer, I saw things from a different perspective. Since all of us were around each other 24/7, we established our opinions of the other campers, fair or not, pretty quickly. There were a few girls that pretty much got pegged as mean girls. Neither of them was in my close circle, but I got to know them bo
th well enough to know that was not true at all. The first one, we'll call
J, came off a little hard - but she was actually a really considerate person, and she always came to me for a second fashion opinion. The other one, also
J, actually - everyone thought she had a bad attitude, but the truth is, she was just outspoken and opinionated, and was hilarious and really nice underneath all that.
So it made me kinda sad when I heard people saying bad things about these two, because they weren't any more flawed than anyone else there. It made me think twice about some of the people, the mean girls, that I had been so intimidated by before. Certainly, there are some girls that do lash out and do really nasty stuff to bring other girls down, for no apparent reason. But maybe sometimes we put people in their position before we have really given them a chance. It's just like any other stereotype - the smart girl, or the shy girl, or whatever. It doesn't give anyone the chance to see past that title, however true or untrue it might be.
I'm not saying you need to be best friends with the "mean girls" at your school, and if someone is treating you badly, you definitely should not take it. But next time you start to feel intimidated or talk about someone behind their back, think if you really know who this person is. You might be surprised to know that they really aren't a mean girl at all.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
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