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| Ask FG: Buds with Body Blues |
Dear Fab Gal,
I have a problem. Actually, it's not me - it's my friends. They complain all the time about how fat they are. The thing is, they're so not! Not at all. And they barely eat anything but salads at lunch and only pick at the snacks now when we have sleepovers. I want to help them see that they're not fat but I don't know how. What should I do?
Hey chica,
It sounds like your friends aren't feeling confident about their bodies right now. I imagine it can be sad or frustrating to see them struggle and feel like you don't know what to do. But first things first: remember that your buds are lucky to have a Fab friend like you looking out for them.
One way you can help is through leading by example. Eat balanced meals and snacks, be confident in yourself, and don't make negative comments about your body. Not only might it inspire them to make positive changes, but it will help you stay strong.
If the body-bashing comes up at lunch, don't join in. It can be tempting to say something like, "No way, you are sooo not fat!" It's fine if you do that, but sometimes that approach just drags the convo on. Instead, wait it out, and then bring up something else you guys like to talk about, whether it's movies, sports, or crushes. Lunchtime is short - spend it having fun, not talking "fat"!
The best time to bring up this weight-y issue is at a sleepover, when you guys can have a heart-to-heart about it. Whatever you say, make it about you. For example, you could say, "I get sad when I hear you guys talking about how fat you think you are. I love you all so much and I think you're beautiful. I hate to see you feel bad about yourselves." What's great about his way of bringing it up is it allows you to say how you feel and gives them the chance to speak up about an issue that's probably been bothering them for a while. Best of all, it gives you all the chance to be open and supportive with each other - exactly what friends are for.
Good luck! If you need more help, I'm always hear for you.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
Got a sitch you'd like help with? Send me your Q by e-mail at fabgalsite@gmail.com or post it in the comments (you can keep it anonymous). I'd love to help!Labels: advice, Ask FG, body image, confidence, fab gal, friends, girls, teens |
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Monday, May 31, 2010 |
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| (Not So) Solo Summer Day |
Day 2: Indulge Yourself
Hello Fab Gals!
This week, I am continuing to test out tips from GirlWise: How to Be Confident, Capable, Cool, and in Control by Julia DeVillers, with help by Atoosa Rubenstein, on how to Be Your Own Best Friend and build confidence. The second step in this how-to is to "Indulge Yourself." According to GirlWise, this means to "Take at least one night every week and do something that's totally all about you." Okay, I can totally do this one. I started working on the perfect plan for an all-about-me day. I didn't feel like I could give up an evening without friends, family, and work calling my name.
I knew exactly what I wanted to do on my solo summer day. I was going to spend my morning catching up on magazines and sun by the pool, and in the afternoon, I was going to hit the shoe department at the mall - a place I'd seriously been missing. It sounded absolutely indulgent and totally fabulous... until the day actually came.
Despite having an action plan in place, take-off proved to be difficult. I knew indulging myself was a perfectly fine way to spend a day, but for some reason I couldn't do it. I kept procrastinating, finding other random tasks to do instead. I began to wonder, Am I really such a difficult person to hang out with? I had no idea. Is it really so bad to spend time with me? Other people seem to be able to handle it. But before long, my thoughts were interrupted by another Fab Gal, one who needed time with a friend as much as I did.
So my solo summer day didn't happen like I imagined. At first I felt like I really failed at being my own best friend. But I've decided I can't give myself a hard time about it. That's the thing about best friends - we forgive them, despite any minor imperfections. Because they are worth more to us than that. And besides, sometimes being a best friend to someone who needs us brings out our best, and gives us something to be confident about. And hey, it's gotta be good practice for when we need to be our own BFFs. That relationship just might take a little more work.
Come back for Day 3: Compliment Yourself, and more confidence tips from GirlWise.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: advice, Atoosa Rubenstein, books, confidence, fab gal, friends, GirlWise, Julia DeVillers, self esteem |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:05 AM |
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Monday, July 6, 2009 |
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| Mean Girls Isn't Just a Movie on TV |
Hello FGs! When you're in a sitch with a bully or a whole crew of Mean Girls, it's hard to know what to do or how to react. You might think about fighting back, winning 'em over, or running for the hills. But the best thing to do? Keep a cool head, as best as you can, and follow these FG rules: - Know Your True Friends - Not everyone will be a good friend to you. That's just reality. A real friend wouldn't make fun of your looks, spread rumors about you, make plans and purposely disinvite you, or do anything to hurt you on purpose. It's better to just let them go. Even if you know of just one real BFF, it's better than having a whole crew of people who don't really have your back.
- Speak Up - If you're dealing with lotsa negativity on a daily basis, let somebody know what you're going through. You don't need to feel like a "tattle." But just finding someone outside of all the drama - an older sib, mom, a teacher - will at least give you someone to vent to, and you'll know you're not alone. They may even have some good ideas for how to deal.
- Don't Bite Back - It doesn't matter who started it. It doesn't matter if she's just pure evil behind blonde hair and a Juicy Couture tracksuit. It's so not worth damaging your own rep. Fight fire with fire, and you're gonna get hurt.
- Keep Your Chin Up - Demi had her acting, and Taylor had songwriting. Finding something you like to do as a healthy way to let out your emotions and lift your spirits will help you stay strong. Being picked can make you feel really icky, and in the moment of it, you feel like there must be something wrong with you. There's not. Don't let them bring you down. You are good enough.
- Say "I'm Sorry" - If you have been gossiping or teasing, think about if you've maybe taken it a little too far. It may be having a bigger impact on people than you think. It doesn't mean you're a horrible, terrible person. You are in control of how you treat people, and you have the ability to turn things around.
xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: advice, bullying, fab gal, friends, relationships |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:28 AM |
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Wednesday, July 1, 2009 |
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| Who's Afraid of the Big Bad Bully? |
I'm back, Fab Gals! When someone says "bully," it makes you picture some dude big biceps, standing in the corner of the playground, ready to pummel the little guys for their pudding. But here in the real girl world, bullies are a little harder to identify from the outside. That's what you see in the cartoons, anyway. However, they do exist, and even without major muscle power, they can cause some serious damage. Bullying can mean physical harm, like pushing or punching, but it can also look a little differently. Spreading rumors, kicking someone  out of the group, nasty text messages. The worst part is that it doesn't often people think it's "normal" teen behavior. In fact, the girls getting picked on usually blame themselves. They become sure that it was their fault, that maybe if they were prettier/cooler/smarter/more perfect, this wouldn't be happening to them. Would you believe that Demi Lovato was bullied? It's true. In fact, it went all the way from teasing to a nasty "We hate Demi" campaign by kids at her school. Like a lot of girls in that sitch, she began to blame herself. "Everyone was saying it's jealously, and blah, blah," Demi said. "The worst part is, I didn't believe it because I didn't think I was worthy of someone being jealous of me. Looking back, that must have been it. But I always pinned it on myself and said there must have been something I did wrong."
This kind of girl bullying can be common, and it can take many forms. It can also be way damaging. It can make you feel worthless, and really stick with you a long time. But let me tell you a little story about a girl named Taylor. At school, she was ditched by her  crew, who went on to teasing her and her love of country music. She was absolutely miserable. But one day, miss Taylor Swift became a star. At one of her concerts, those former friends "showed up, wearing my T-shirts and asking me to sign their CDs. It was bittersweet, because it made me realize that they didn't remember being mean to me and that I needed to forget about it, too." When you're in the moment of it, bullying can really get under your skin and make you question yourself. It can feel like the end of your world. But it's so not. That's why I love T & D's stories, because it's absolute proof that this isn't the end. Not for you.
So let's call this the FG Anti-Bullying week. Or maybe Pro-Friend week? Because, whether you've been a victim or even a bully yourself, we can get past it. xoxo
The Fab Gal
Labels: advice, bullying, fab gal, friends, girls, relationships, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 12:54 PM |
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Wednesday, February 11, 2009 |
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| What Goes Around... |
Hey there Fab Gals!
You know, I've been told before how much people's attitudes can affect you. Surround yourself with positive people, they say. And I always though, yeah, I guess that makes sense, but how does it really work out? And I think now I really get it.
See, I have a friend who is very. . . strongly opinionated. She has absolutely no problem telling anyone how she feels. But one day, she was going on and on about a fight she had, and she kept telling me how stupid and mean the other girl was. I was trying to just listen, but I seriously was about to snap. Later that night, I coudn't help but complain to another friend about how much that attitude was drove me crazy. I was continuing the cycle.
Then, on the flipside, I got a really nice e-mail from a friend telling me what a great job I did on a something I wrote. It made me feel so good, I e-mailed another classmate offering to help her on her project. Then, I was sent a note from another friend, talking about what a wonderful week she was having, me being a part of it, and I thought, Goodness, that makes me feel so great! How can I share that feeling with someone else?
So that's how I think it works - positivity, negativity - it's like a chain reaction. Like when you find good music or good food and you can't help but share it with someone else. And I'm sure it's a good thing to try to surround yourself with positive people. But one place to start is to see how you can be that positive person and share it, even in a small way.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: advice, fab gal, friends, happiness, kindness, positivity, relationships |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 7:10 PM |
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Monday, February 2, 2009 |
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| Life Stories |
Hello FGs!
So I have been working on this really interesting project lately. See, I'm part of this peer education group at my school, and we each have to write out our own "life story," as far as food and body drama. When we're done, we have to share them with the group. I have yet to share mine, but many girls in the group have. And when we got started, I remember looking around the group and thinking, These girls are so cool and confident. There's no way been there, or felt bad about their bodies. And I was so wrong. In fact, they had all been there, some to the far extremes. I couldn't believe it.
Then this weekend, I was having a girls' night with some FGs from my school. We were sharing silly date stories, and someone brought up first kisses. Well, I haven't had mine yet (shh!). I was trying to keep quiet, but then A turned to me and said, "What was yours like?" "Me? Oh well, you know, it. . . hasn't happened yet." And she yelled, "Oh my gosh, me neither!" Once again, I was so surprised. I thought I knew her so well. She is so outgoing, fun - everybody loves her. But there she was, hiding the same silly secret as me.
Sometimes people can catch you off guard - even when you think someone's life seems "so perfect" compared to you, they might be more like you than you think. I realized that I have been carrying all of my insecurities around like scars, as if everyone could see them. And I've let myself feel like less because of it. But you know what? I wouldn't think less of those FGs, because in spite of whatever they are still pretty darn fabulous. Don't hold yourself back, because you just might be more fab than you think.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: advice, fab gal, friends, self esteem, sharing, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 12:49 PM |
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Wednesday, September 24, 2008 |
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| Body Language |
Hey Fab Gals!
The other day I gave you some examples of girls talking about being "fat." Chances are, you know someone who talks negatively about her food or her body - maybe all of your friends talk that way. While it may not seem serious, that kind of talk can sometimes be sign of future problems. It isn't good for them, and it isn't good for you, either. All that negativity can really damage your self image. Here are some ways to change the language...
- Ignore the Negativity - When a friend starts the "fat" talk, don't make it worse. While you might think it would make her feel better to disagree with her or to tell her about your "fatness," that just drags out the negativity. Try to breeze by, if you can.
- Be Open - While you don't want to encourage her to talk that way, it's also important to be sensitive. She may be feeling sensitive about her body, or about another issue. If a friend starts to criticize herself, ask her if something else is bothering her.
- Change the Talk - If you and your friends often go into a body-loathing session after ordering pizza or going out for ice cream, try to steer away from that. It may seem like you're bonding, but do you really want to bond over how fat you feel? Talk about how much you enjoy getting to be with each other, not how many calories you ate.
- Share the Love - We spend so much time criticizing ourselves that we often get consumed by it. Remind your friends how awesome they are. Sometimes a genuine compliment can make all the difference for someone.
- Lead by Example - It's alright if everyone around you seems to talk "fat" all the time. But you don't have to. Be an example of someone who loves their body. Sometimes actions speak a lot louder than words.
Hopefully that helps, FGs. You are too beautiful and fabulous to spend your time body-hating! But if you ever need a reminder, I can always be reached here, by e-mail at fabgalsite@gmail.com, or at The Fab Gal Myspace. xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: body image, fab gal, friends, girls, self esteem, talk, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 7:56 AM |
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Monday, September 22, 2008 |
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| Body Bonding |
Hey there FGs!
So I heard two interesting conversations last week. The first went something like this...
I was at an ice cream party, and the girl who was in line next to me said, "I'm such a fatty. I had dessert for lunch and now I'm having ice cream. But I don't care, I want ice cream. I know I'm already a fatty."
The second exchange was like this...
Two girls came into the snack shop and one said she didn't want to get anything. The other said, "Oh, I need to eat. I'm fat."
"Well did you eat dinner yet?"
"No."
"See? Then you're not fat."
I thought it was the weirdest thing. Of course, none of the girls were really trying to be serious. But that's kinda the point. It's like that's what you're supposed to say. If you are with girls and you're eating, it's supposed to be bad, and you apologize. And then your friends are supposed to compliment you and tell you it's not true. Does that really make anybody feel better?
I'm not trying to criticize those girls. It's a pretty common habit, and I'm sure I've done it before without even realizing it. But sometimes our attitudes about food, especially when we're with other girls, are so messed up. It's like we bond over being "fat" and comforting each other. Really though, we should be able to eat, even ice cream, without feeling bad and apologizing about it. And we should be able to have friendships without hating our bodies.
I encourage you to be more aware of how you talk with your friends about food and your body. Recognize where and when you hear yourself saying these things. And maybe try to stop. Because you and your friends can enjoy food and feel good about yourself when you're together, without all of the "fat" talk.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: body image, fab gal, friends, girls, self esteem, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:12 AM |
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Saturday, September 20, 2008 |
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| Fab Gal Top 10: Fun Things to Do |
Hey Fab Gals!
As much as I love to shop, there are only so many times that me and my girlfriends can go to the mall. And there are only so many movies in the theater. So if you and your friends are tired of the same old things, read on. This week's Top 10 is fun things that you can do with your BFFs, or new Fs, or whoever!
1. Camping - I just went yesterday for the first time ever! Even if you aren't a nature girl, there is something magic about lying outside under the stars. Plus, think of all the games you can play when it gets dark! Just make sure you find a safe campsite (or use your backyard).
2. Make a Movie - If you've got a video camera, put it to good use! You can make a TV show, or a music video, or just be silly Miley and Mandy style. Get creative!
3. Ice Skating - You've probably been roller skating a million times. But how about ice skating? It's even more fun. Hot Chocolate is necessary.
4. Try a New Restaurant - You never know what might become the favorite for you and your girls. If there's nowhere new, at least try a new flavor of ice cream or pizza toppings and your usual place.
5. Learn to Dance - You can bust a move to your fave songs on the radio. But what about ballroom dancing? Swing dancing? Hip hop? Find a class and get on your dancing shoes.
6. Photo Shoot - It's pretty silly, but me and my cousins love to dress up and take pictures. We always end up with some new things to put on Facebook, as well as a lot of laughs!
7. Work it Out - It's hard to find time (and motivation) to fit exercise into your schedule. But if you do it with your friends, it's so easy! Try yoga, jogging, kickboxing, or whatever you enjoy.
8. TV Marathon - Sometimes it feels good to just chill out. But instead of watching the same old shows, rent a DVD of something you've never watched before (Friends? Gilmore Girls? I Love Lucy?). You'll have something to share that not everybody has seen.
9. Road Trip - This one takes a little extra time and planning. If you see a good concert or event coming up in a city nearby, see if you can work out (maybe as an early birthday present!) for your parents to take you and a few friends. It'll be worth the memories!
10. Share the love - How often do you tell your friends how much you appreciate them? Write them a card, or make a special day to celebrate what you share. It will make all of you feel great.
Have a happy weekend!
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: fab gal, friends, fun ideas, top 10 |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:27 AM |
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Saturday, September 6, 2008 |
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| Fab Gal Top 10: Best Friends |
Hey FGs!
So, to finish out our friends week, I thought it would be cool to count down the top ten FG famous best friends. These are just some of my faves...
1. Demi Lovato & Selena Gomez - Cutest story ever! These two Disney girls have been BFFs since their days on Barney. Soon, they'll be starring in the movie Princess Protection Program together.
2. Carmen, Tibby, Lena, & Bridget - In the book or in the movie, these Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants girls make quite a crew. It's amazing that four totally different girls can share one pair of pants.
3. Miley & Lily - The girls of Hannah Montana get to live the rock star life together and have some crazy adventures as regular best friends. The best of both worlds!
4. Serena & Blair - Probably not the best example, but we love these Gossip Girl on-and-off friends as much as they love each other (most of the time).
5. The Cheetah Girls - In real life and on-screen, these girls are as loyal as they are fierce. So cheetah-licious!
6. Miley & Mandy - Miley's name is already on the list, but this time it's with her real-life BFF, Many. Have you seen the "Miley and Mandy Show" on YouTube? Check it out!
7. Drake & Josh - So, they are boys, and they can be a little...weird. But you've got to love this hilarious duo!
8. Raven & Chelsea - Before all the rest, these two That's So Raven stars were known for getting in crazy situations and wearing wacky disguises. They always had each other's back!
9. Alex & Harper - The girls of Wizards of Waverly Place are be totally different - Harper is the goofy gal, and Alex is a tough chick. But they always share the Funky Hat song!
10. You and your BFF! - Okay, maybe not famous yet. But who knows? I bet we'll be seeing your names someday...
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: celebrities, fab gal, friends, top 10 |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:59 AM |
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Friday, September 5, 2008 |
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| Friends of All Kinds |
Hey Fab Gals!
So this week we've talked about friends and what makes a best friend. I think the coolest thing is that you can have a variety of friends for different reasons. Here are some of the best friends I think a FG can have...
- Supportive Sister - Some of you have said that your BFF is the best because she is loyal, and she is always there for you when you need her. She is the girl who lets you cry on her shoulder, who will always listen, whether it's boy drama or school issues. She's your biggest cheerleader in everything you do.
- Funny Friend - No matter what, she knows how to make you laugh. When you are down, she makes you forget you were in a bad mood. And you two have craziest adventures ever. It's like you never grew up. . . in a good way.
- Busy Bud - This girl is always going somewhere, doing something. She seems to know people everywhere. It might make you feel like you can't keep up, but don't. The awesome thing about her is she can always show you something to do and help you meet new people. She helps you expand your circle.
- The Twin - Most of us don't really have a twin (although I wish I did!). But it can be so fun to have someone who seems to love the same things as you - same clothes, same music, same TV shows. That way, you'll always have someone to watch the new episode of Hannah Montana or go to the Taylor Swift concert with you.
- Family Friend - Maybe your family is so crazy sometimes, you hope you aren't actually related to them. But it's cool if you can find someone - an aunt, a cousin, a brother - who you can talk to the way you'd talk to a friend. You know for sure that they'll always be there for you when you need to talk, and it can be nice to get an outside opinion. You might be surprised how not-crazy their advice is.
So that barely scratches the surface - there are so many fabulous kinds of friends you can have. Think about yours - what makes them so special? What kind of friend are you, FG? xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: fab gal, friends, girls, relationships, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:34 AM |
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Monday, September 1, 2008 |
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| True Friend |
Hey There FGs!
Miley has Lily. Selena has Demi. The Cheetahs have each other. You know who they are - your best friends. It's funny, because we all love to talk about boys, but our BFFs are the real rock stars. I guess maybe it's because we know that no matter what we do, no matter what we say, they will always be there in the end.
What makes somebody a best friend? No pair is exactly the same, but I think they all have some things in common. To me, it's like this quote I read, that said a BFF is the one who is there when she'd rather be anywhere else. That's the most important thing, knowing you have someone who will stick around when you fall. That, and the feeling that you are somehow always on the same level, and you understand things about her that  nobody else would. BFF means hearing her special ringtone on your phone and already knowing why she's calling. It's tagging along on a boy chase because you know she would do it for you. It's laughing over the stupidest jokes that nobody but you two would get, and having a heck of a time even though you're just messing around on Facebook in your pjs.
The cool thing is, it's okay to have more than one BFF. You can have different friends from different places for different reasons. No need to be exclusive. Just make sure you give - your respect, your encouragement, your shoulder to cry on, and maybe some cookie dough ice cream when things get really bad. And know that any one of your FGs would do the same for you. Celebrate the things that make the two of you so fabulous.
Tell me about your best friend(s), Fab Gal. What makes them so special? What are some of the silly things you do together? What have you done to be there for each other? I want to hear about it all. Leave a comment to let me know!
xoxo
The Fab Gal Labels: fab gal, friends, girls, relationships, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:02 AM |
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Wednesday, August 27, 2008 |
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| The Competition is Fierce |
Hey there Fab Gals!
Did you catch The Cheetah Girls: One World last Friday? Just what you would hope for - catchy music, amazing setting, crazy-good dancing - super cheetah-licious. But the story got me thinking, how could The Cheetah Girls, three tighter-than-tight best friends, turn on each other? Sure, they've got the shot to be a world-famous movie star. Would real girls do that to each other? It could definitely happen - competition gets the best of us some  times.
It isn't all bad. Sometimes we need a struggle to give us that extra push to get going. When we are faced with a challenge, we see how far we can really go. Sometimes, though, competition gets ugly. Girls turn catty, gossip starts, and fair play is out the window. You might have faced it before - at cheer tryouts, musical auditions, or maybe just in the school hallway. We get this drive to be the best, the smartest, the prettiest, the most talented. It's so funny that in the moments wehen we are trying to establish a good reputation, we don't care if someone else gets dragged down in the process. But is the prize worth the pay? Is that really the girl you want to be in the end?
So I think we should make a pact, Fab Gals. We need to remember that every FG is our sister. Sure, sometimes we will come into competition or conflict with each other. Go for what you want, but always look out for your girls. If you lose sight of them, then maybe it's time to take a step back. Give it all you got, just like the Cheetahs would, and help others do the same. That's the Fab Gal thing to do.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
Labels: Cheetah Girls, competition, fab gal, friends |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 1:28 PM |
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Friday, August 22, 2008 |
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| Rise and Shine! |
Happy Friday, Fab Gals!
I don't know how many of you have started school yet, but the first week is always hard, isn't it?Especially if you're new there, which is the case for me. Being in a new environment and not knowing anyone very well can be really intimidating, especially when you are just trying to make a good impression and find where you fit in. That's how I have been spending my week - trying to find my group.
It's really funny how, when we're trying to make new friends, we spend our time seeing how we match up. Do they look like me? Have the same interests? Same personality? When you're trying so hard to fit in, it can be easy to get caught up trying to be like the people you want to impress. It seems natural that if you can seem cool and be "one of them," things will be good, because you'll have your place.
Something you should know about me: I am a little different. Not in a freaky way, like I wear cat pajamas to school or whatever, but I am definitely my own person. We Fab Gals, we're born to stand out, you know? And this whole week, I have been trying to push myself into place, to fit into this group or that one, and truthfully, I haven't been all that happy, because I haven't really gotten to be myself.
Like I said, when we think about groups of people, we think about how they are the same. But think about one person, someone you really admire. Don't you think about what's unique about them? Those things that make you different, those are the things that make you impressive. That, and having respect for yourself and everyone else. Being yourself means not everyone is going to like you. That's just the way it goes. It's like what Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different." You were born to stand out, FG, and if you let yourself, you won't have to worry about finding your place because you will always be in it.
I hope school is going alright for you, and that you get your chance to stand out. If you need me, remember that I can always be reached here, by email at fabgalsite@gmail.com, or at The Fab Gal Myspace.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: being yourself, fab gal, friends, individuality, school, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 8:56 AM |
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Monday, August 18, 2008 |
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| Where Did the Mean Girls Go? |
Hello FGs! So we've all known them. Maybe they're not as scary as The Plastics, but you heard they made a girl cry. And everybody talks about them, but not to their face - hello, they're the mean girls! You're pretty sure they don't have a nice bone in their body. Believe me, I've known plenty of them. Those girls always scare me - I always feel like less around them. But when I was at camp this summer, I saw things from a different perspective. Since all of us were around each other 24/7, we established our opinions of the other campers, fair or not, pretty quickly. There were a few girls that pretty much got pegged as mean girls. Neither of them was in my close circle, but I got to know them bo  th well enough to know that was not true at all. The first one, we'll call J, came off a little hard - but she was actually a really considerate person, and she always came to me for a second fashion opinion. The other one, also J, actually - everyone thought she had a bad attitude, but the truth is, she was just outspoken and opinionated, and was hilarious and really nice underneath all that. So it made me kinda sad when I heard people saying bad things about these two, because they weren't any more flawed than anyone else there. It made me think twice about some of the people, the mean girls, that I had been so intimidated by before. Certainly, there are some girls that do lash out and do really nasty stuff to bring other girls down, for no apparent reason. But maybe sometimes we put people in their position before we have really given them a chance. It's just like any other stereotype - the smart girl, or the shy girl, or whatever. It doesn't give anyone the chance to see past that title, however true or untrue it might be. I'm not saying you need to be best friends with the "mean girls" at your school, and if someone is treating you badly, you definitely should not take it. But next time you start to feel intimidated or talk about someone behind their back, think if you really know who this person is. You might be surprised to know that they really aren't a mean girl at all. xoxo The Fab Gal PS - I have been updating The Fab Gal Myspace, and the blog there is available for you to leave comments about the site. Check it out! Labels: celebrity gossip, fab gal, friends, girls, Labels, Mean Girls, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 2:35 PM |
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Friday, July 25, 2008 |
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| At the Crossroads |
Hey FGs!
About 6 years ago, I was obsessed with Crossroads. You know, that Britney Spears movie? It's okay - you can laugh. Point is, at the beginning of the movie, these three BFFs make a box with their memories and their goals for the future, and then they bury it, and agree to open it on a special date.
So me and my two BFFS, L and M, decided we should do it too. I don't remember much of its contents, but I know for sure I put in a CD because I wanted to be the next Britney Spears. L wanted to be an actress, and M wanted to be a marine biologist. We decided that we would open it at midnight on July 4, 2008. It's been 3 weeks since that day... and we still can't find it.
When we made the box, I remember thinking about what my life would be like now. Now, looking back, I wonder if I would be disappointed. Part of me thinks I would. I guess I just thought things would be different, more figured out. By the end of the movie, Britney has a record contract, a perfect boyfriend, and is well on the road to fame and riches. I really don't have anything that compares. I'm still waiting for that text to come through and the braces to come off and for the whole world to realize how wonderful and talented I am. Perfect? Not so much. I can't even find a stupid box. 
Despite all of that, I am really, really happy with who I am right now. I learn new things everyday, and I am contstantly surprised with life. I have amazing friends. I don't know what the future holds, but I see where I'm going, and I like it. So maybe the smaller, blonder version of me would be disappointed. Too bad. But she wanted me to be Britney Spears, so she didn't have much foresight, anyway. xoxo The Fab GalLabels: change, fab gal, friends, goals, memory box, self esteem |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 8:21 AM |
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Wednesday, July 23, 2008 |
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| Summer Slow-Down |
Aloha Fab Gals!
When the school year comes, time seems to be lost to homework, club meetings, after-school gossip, and maybe a few winks of sleep. But as much as you love summer, admit it: you're starting to get a teeny bit bored. You can only boy-watch at the mall and lay out by the pool so long. Well, it's time to get creative - really. Summer is the perfect time to do those fun projects you've been thinking about all year. So grab a friend & get going!
- Make a Collage - My cousins and I did this last year. We took our old mags and made little posters for our lockers. It was fun picking out words and pictures to match each other, and it made me happy every time I went for my textbooks!
- Start a Journal - I've said it before, but a journal is a really great thing to have. And when the school year is in full swing, you'll be happy to have it. Find a good notebook and decorate as you desire (plus - be sure to find a safe place to store it!).
- Spa Day - No big deal if you don't have mega-bucks to spend at a salon. Look online for at-home recipes for face masks and scrubs. Grab some nail polish, your best girlies, and you're good to go!
- Make a Memory Box - You've had an amazing summer, and you want to remember it. Get your fave photos, tickets, seashells, whatev and find a cute box to store them in. Better yet, make it a time capsule, and bury it to uncover someday in the future. (I'll tell ya about my time capsule adventure Friday!)
- What Else? What have you been hoping to do that you haven't yet? See a certain movie? Clean your closet? Learn kickboxing? Get to it, girlfriend! You won't have any more time once summer's done. Believe me, Facebook will wait.
What awesome things have you been doing this summer, FGs? I'd love to hear! Leave a comment to let me know (see instructions on the side). xoxo The Fab Gal PS - The Jonas Brothers concert? Totally amazing! Labels: boredom busters, fab gal, friends, fun ideas, summer |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 8:06 AM |
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