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Monday, August 18, 2008 |
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| Where Did the Mean Girls Go? |
Hello FGs! So we've all known them. Maybe they're not as scary as The Plastics, but you heard they made a girl cry. And everybody talks about them, but not to their face - hello, they're the mean girls! You're pretty sure they don't have a nice bone in their body. Believe me, I've known plenty of them. Those girls always scare me - I always feel like less around them. But when I was at camp this summer, I saw things from a different perspective. Since all of us were around each other 24/7, we established our opinions of the other campers, fair or not, pretty quickly. There were a few girls that pretty much got pegged as mean girls. Neither of them was in my close circle, but I got to know them bo  th well enough to know that was not true at all. The first one, we'll call J, came off a little hard - but she was actually a really considerate person, and she always came to me for a second fashion opinion. The other one, also J, actually - everyone thought she had a bad attitude, but the truth is, she was just outspoken and opinionated, and was hilarious and really nice underneath all that. So it made me kinda sad when I heard people saying bad things about these two, because they weren't any more flawed than anyone else there. It made me think twice about some of the people, the mean girls, that I had been so intimidated by before. Certainly, there are some girls that do lash out and do really nasty stuff to bring other girls down, for no apparent reason. But maybe sometimes we put people in their position before we have really given them a chance. It's just like any other stereotype - the smart girl, or the shy girl, or whatever. It doesn't give anyone the chance to see past that title, however true or untrue it might be. I'm not saying you need to be best friends with the "mean girls" at your school, and if someone is treating you badly, you definitely should not take it. But next time you start to feel intimidated or talk about someone behind their back, think if you really know who this person is. You might be surprised to know that they really aren't a mean girl at all. xoxo The Fab Gal PS - I have been updating The Fab Gal Myspace, and the blog there is available for you to leave comments about the site. Check it out! Labels: celebrity gossip, fab gal, friends, girls, Labels, Mean Girls, teens |
posted by Fab Gal @ 2:35 PM   |
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Monday, June 16, 2008 |
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| Labeled |
Hey there FGs!
I don't know about your school, but at ours, yearbooks are a BIG deal. Everyone loves to see how many times their picture got in, and they really love to guess what the theme will be, even though it's usually pretty silly. This year, the theme was "Labeled," and the cover was filled with all the things our student body can be labeled as. They were all nice things - outgoing, athletic, memorable - but it made me think: Are labels ever really a good thing?
We label people for convenience, like "Carrie, she's smart, she can help me with my math homework," or "Adrienne is a cheerleader, so she must know everyone at school." Athlete. Blonde. Nerd. Whatever. Especially when we're younger, and our world seems a little crazy, it makes things easier to just categorize people and not think about it.
Some labels are supposed to be positive, like the ones on our yearbooks, but there's a problem: they don't leave room for change. Sure, maybe today you are the shy, smart girl in the back of the class, but maybe tomorrow you want to be something different. Some will welcome the change, but people who are stuck on labels will miss it. Either way it doesn't really matter. It's like my friend J-Lo said: "You know who you are. Focus on that. Other people will see that eventually." It doesn't matter where you end up in the yearbook - how you see yourself is so much more important.
You, Fab Gal, are not a can of soup. You don't need to be labeled. Don't live up to someone's expectations - live up to your own. Don't be something - be yourself. Live above the labels and leave room for change.
How have you been labeled, FG? Do you put labels on other people? Are they really a bad thing? Leave a comment to let me know what you think.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
FG Update: The Fab Gal will very soon be moving to a new home - http://thefabgal.com/. Perfect for us, right? Keep checking back, more updates to come!Labels: change, fab gal, individuality, Labels, yearbooks |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 12:58 PM |
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