"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe
Lately, I've had some convos with FGs about friendships - and what happens when they start to change. Some seem to last forever, but moves, different schools, and new boyfriends can sometimes put a strain on even the best of them. What's a girl to do? Here are some FG tips to make the transitions a little easier.
Keep Contact - If distance is what separates you, find time to catch up with texts (between class, of course), IM, or phone calls. Figure out a time that works for both of you to chat and swap stories. You might find that the distance gives you even more to talk about.
Get into Routine - If you two are both busy chicas, look for opportunities for BFF multi-tasking. Lunch, after-school study sessions, or Friday manicures are great ways to make time for each other without skipping a beat.
Be Honest - If you feel like your friend is leaving you in the cold for her new guy, it's okay to be honest about how you feel. No need to get nasty - just call her up and say, "Hey, I feel like I haven't gotten to see you in a while. I miss you!" That might be all you need to bring her back to your zone.
Mix it Up - If you and your friend end up at different schools with different circles of friends, find ways to share. Invite her to a pizza party with your buds, or join her for her school's basketball game. Look at it like this - you both get to meet new people and stick together at the same time. It's the best of both worlds.
Let it Be - If you feel like there's a growing space between you and your friend, or she hasn't been around for you, it's good to try to settle things out. But if none of the above solutions help, it might be best for you to just give it a (peaceful) break. If you try to push it, things could start to get messy. It hurts to feel like you're losing a friend, but letting it go will give you an opportunity to spend time with FGs who will truly have your back in the long run.
