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Tuesday, June 23, 2009 |
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| Here's What's Up... |
Hey Ladies!
So just a quick FG FYI for you - I am going away tomorrow for (another) trip for a little time with my BFF. I am SO excited! Anyways, that means I will probably be without a computer (yikes!) until next Wednesday. If I can find some Internet access, I will try to post some new stuff, but if not, I'll be back next Wednesday, July 1st!
Love and xoxo
The Fab Gal
PS - While I'm gone, you can keep up with me at these other sites, too!
Twitter
Youtube
Myspace
GirlsLife Labels: fab gal, update |
posted by Fab Gal @ 10:05 AM   |
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Monday, June 22, 2009 |
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| Feeling Unfabulous |
Hey FGs!
Isn't it funny that, whenever we have big events in life, looks become a Big Deal? Like when there's a school dance, and you save up lotsa magazines and cash to snag the best dress and 'do. Or maybe it's spring break, and you want a pre-Florida glow, or school pics day, and spot-free skin becomes a necessity. The way you look in the mirror becomes high priority.
This last weekend was a Big Deal for me. I was going to stay o  ver with one of my BFFs, in the small town where she lives. It may not sound that glamorous, but we'd been planning it for a way long time, and it was gonna be awesome. We were gonna go see all the cute little-town highlights, hang out in the park, even go to a rodeo! It was all picture-perfect in my head.
Until the week of the big trip came. I got a few teeth pulled, and my face was... well, a little puffy. No, not a little. It was chipmunk-crazy. How could I even bear to show my face? But I couldn't bail on my bud. So I went. But on our first day out, I pulled on some jean shorts, and... oh, shoot. The button wouldn't go together. Normally, I would go through everything I should and shouldn't have eaten over the last two weeks, and figure out just exactly why this body blunder was happening. But I didn't have time. I threw everything out of my bag, but I didn't pack much, and my only other option was cut-off sweats. What to do?
This was supposed to be my weekend! I was gonna have a fab time with my BFF, try some new things, and meet a cowboy cutie! I can't do that with chubby cheeks and cutoffs! But then I took a deep breath. Okay. So, I wasn't gonna look absolutely fabulous and perfect this weekend. But I was not going to miss out on a minute of the fun I wanted to have. So I pulled on my favorite tie-dye tank top, some flip-flops, and walked out the door.
It's totally normal to want to look our best. It makes us feel confident and good about ourselves. So, of course, when we're nervous, or excited, or wondering if we're gonna dance with that cutie or if we'll have a good vacation, we want to know that things will go well. But you know, I now know for sure that, even if you're not looking your absolute best, you can still have fun. It's all about attitude. That doesn't mean you can't spend your summer planning the perf first-day-of-school outfit. Just remember that attitude is what will really make you shine.
xoxo
The Fab Gal Labels: advice, body image, fab gal, girls, self esteem, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 1:37 PM |
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Friday, June 19, 2009 |
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| The Late Bloomers' Club |
Hey FGs!
There are lots of big mile-markers on the road to growing up. And of course, as your moms and dads and teachers tell you, well all make it there in our own time, at our own pace.
Not that it's a race or anything, but sometimes when your the last in your crew to experience something, it can make you feel kinda left out, maybe even embarrassed. Whether it's having your first job, getting your period, going to camp away from home, or - ouch - maybe you still have your membership to the "NBK Club" (I think the name for it makes it seems that much worse). It might not seem like a big deal at all, till your at a sleepover and everyone's gushing about their first BFs or the first time they used a tampon. Sure, even if it's something kinda gross, it can make you feel like you've got nothing to share. Or, gulp, is there something wrong with you? Why are you so behind?
And it can go the other way, too - being the first for some things can make you feel like an outsider. But you've got options. You can just make something up - "Oh I know, my first kiss was amazing!" But sooner or later, that fib will probably catch up with ya. Some girls, when they feel left behind, will try to go out and do something to make themselves feel or look older, like dating an older guy or drawing on extra liner and lip gloss. But that's just pretend. It won't really make you feel better. Or you can just try to blend into the background, and say nothing at all. Maybe nobody will really even notice.
Okay, so none of those options are really that awesome. Believe me, I've seen them all play out, and they don't work. So here's option #4: Own it. Own your own story. Now, you don't need to go out and buy an NBK Club t-shirt. But you need to be, at least with yourself, okay with where you're at. It will be a relief, and it will make that first whatever feel okay, because you will know that in your story, it came at just the right time.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: advice, fab gal, girls, life lessons, self esteem, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 10:59 AM |
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Wednesday, June 17, 2009 |
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| One and the Same |
Hey Fab Gals!
Summer time can equal mega free time, maybe hanging out with friends and laying by the pool, chilling at the mall, or having slumber parties and movie marathons. Still, other things, like stayaway camp, looong family vacays, or even moves to new cities can mean lots time away from your BFF during the sunny days. So what's a girl to do? Lemme give you a few FG ideas:
- Pencil it in. If you're both gonna be uber-busy, plan ahead a little chunk of time each week where you can catch up with a phone call or IM sesh each week. It will keep you both in each other's scheds, so you won't have to worry about forgetting (or being forgotten).
- Plan some hang time. Is there a summer movie you've both wanted to see, or a TV show you both dig? Well if you plan on watching it at the same time, you can call/text each other up during the commercials. Sure, not the same as being together, but it'll be fun to know you've made some time to "hang out," even though you can't really be together. The perf BFF flick this summer? Princess Protection Program Disney, starring real-life BFFs Demi Lovato and Selena Gomez. Check it out on Friday, June 26th!
- Snail-mail it. Sure, maybe texting, Facebook, and Myspace mean insta-connection. But you can do that with anyone. See if you can get your BF
 Fs address (at home, camp, or wherever she'll be) and send her some letters postcards, or even fun mix CDs through the mail. Believe me, she'll absolutely love it, and it is so worth the wait! - Have a reunion party. Likely, you're gonna have lots to catch up on when you're back together. So plan ahead a sleepover for the weekend when you get back together. It will give you time to stay up late and chat, and you can look forward to it all summer!
Most of all, don't stress too much about having a lot of time apart. Chances are, it will help you both learn some new things about yourself, as well as remind you how special your friendship really is. So how are your and your BFF spending this summer? What do you do when you're together? How do you stay in touch when you're apart? Leave a comment to let me know (see the instructions on the side if you don't know how!). xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: advice, BFFs, fab gal, friendships, staying in touch, summer |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 11:00 AM |
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Tuesday, June 9, 2009 |
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| It's Alright, It's Okay |
Hey Fab Gals!
You know, people always say that weaknesses are the hardest thing to admit. I don't think that's true. Not really. I think it's often a lot easier to admit what's wrong with you, than to own up to your positives. I think, at least sometimes, we tend to pay a lot more attention to our flaws, bad habits, whatever we don't like. We might not want to look our weaknesses straight in the face, but we can always feel them around us.
Weakness might not even be the right word for it. I don't think we're really too weak to overcome the "bad" parts of ourselves, be it nail-biting, worrying, being too loud, too loud, too quiet, bloodsucking... (okay, too much Twilight for me). Even if it's something physical. Willpower can be a pretty strong force. So can Botox.
Now, I don't want to sound like a cop-out, but, well, I'm thinking that maybe sometimes it's better to just accept your weaknesses for what they are. To own them as just proof that we are just real. Only human. I mean, I've learned that if I really push myself, not much can stop me. But still, I'm not sure today what good trying to fix everything and make myself "better" is actually getting me where I want to go anymore.
Having goals, moving forward, trying new things... it's how you grow. But a helpful part of that is focus. Knowing what's actually, like, a good goal and what's worth a "Ya know what? That's cool. That's just part of me right now." Letting it go might even make you feel more Fab than fixing it. Because you are so Fab, just as you are. Right now.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: advice, fab gal, problem solving, self esteem, weaknesses |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 2:32 PM |
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Friday, June 5, 2009 |
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| Hearts A-Twitter |
Hey FGs!
Taylor Swift does it from the studio, Demi Lovato does it to Perez Hilton, and David Archuleta does it before crawls into bed at night. Twittering. I'd been hearing a lot about it, how the whole world is "tweeting" these days. Except me, apparently I'll admit, I wasn't so into the idea at first. So you just, like, read what people are doing? Shouldn't I just worry about what I'm doing before I go around following everybody else?
But of course, I had to try it for myself. And it IS fascinating. I mean, you can keep up with what your friends - including, you know, Miley Cyrus and Jordin Sparks - are up to. And anyone with a phone can tweet from anywhere at any time. Not saying that you should, of course. But you could, if you wanted to.
So, I don't know. I can see why people say that maybe our technological connections have gone a little too far these days. But as long as you tweet nicely, I think it can be fun. I mean, staying in touch with celeb crushes 24/7? Count me in! You can keep up with my Twitter adventures at www.twitter.com/thefabgal.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: celebrities, communication, fab gal, twitter |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 12:44 PM |
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Monday, June 1, 2009 |
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| Girls Like Us |
Hey FGs!
Sometimes, I think some girls have all the luck.
I was at this end-of-the-year party yesterday. It was hosted by a good friend of my BFF. I've met her a few times, and she's a cool chica - outgoing, fun, ambitious. Beautiful, too. At any rate, I do like parties, so I was excited to be there.
Me and my BFF were on the couch, watching the action unfold. Our hostess walked by with this gorgeous blonde guy, who, seriously, looked like something from an Abercrombie ad. She showed him the kitchen and then squeezed in between us and gushed, "Oh, did you see him?! He's the one who's helping me get a job at the mall. I like him SO much. But look - do you see that guy outside? He said he really likes me, too. But he's going home to Italy in two days! Gosh, and you remember my boyfriend, the one from Brazil? Well, we just broke up, on Tuesday." My mouth just about dropped. Really? I'd just like one cute American, thankyouverymuch. But that has to be downright unfair.
It reminded me of this advice column I read on GirlsLife.com. This girl was asking why boys never liked "girls like me." And without explanation, I knew what she meant by that. Whenever you think you don't have enough, it feels like you're not enough. Like you're some loser on your own little island, wondering why these things happen to "girls like you."
It doesn't even have to be about boys. It can be any way you feel like you don't measure up. Maybe you're the girl dying for designer duds, or the beautiful brunette lusting after long blonde locks. Whatever it might be, it hurts. You start to believe there really might be something wrong with you.
But maybe there's not really anything wrong with girls like you. Like us. Maybe we're just different. All of us. Like different types of shoes or different flavors of ice cream. Okay, maybe that doesn't make it feel any better. I don't know. Maybe it's just that, when you compare, of course you don't measure up. Because you're not the same at all. Comparing strawberry to mint chocolate chip doesn't work. And if strawberry tried to be more like mint chocolate chip, well, that would just be a nightmare. At the end of the day, you just have to work with what you've got. Because it's yours, for one reason or another. And it really is enough, whether you know that now or not.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever, have enough.” – Oprah WinfreyLabels: advice, fab gal, girls, self esteem, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 11:05 AM |
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