| |
| |
Wednesday, October 15, 2008 |
|
 |
|
 |
| |
| Happy Love Your Body Day! |
Hello Fab Gals!
First off, I want to tell you Happy Love Your Body Day! That's definitely a reason to celebrate. But if you've been having trouble celebrating you lately, I want you to try this exercise. All you need is a pen and a paper.
You're going to make three lists. On the first, write down 15 (or more, if you want) things that describe what you're supposed to be. For example, you might put "pretty," "athletic," or "popular." It doesn't matter where you've gotten these expectations. Just think of the things that you measure yourself by.
Now list #2: write down 15 things that describe you, just the way you are. Anything that's uniquely you, like "loyal," "ambitious," or even "messy." Recognize all the things that make you special, that make you you.
On the last list, write down 15 things that you're thankful for. It might seem hard at first. You might be thankful for your parents, siblings, or BFF. Or maybe you're thankful for glitter and Grey's Anatomy.
Look over your three lists. A lot of us spend a lot of time focusing on the first one. We want to be perfect. We think that we need to be those things to really be happy. But look at your other two lists. Would you trade all of those to be the things on the first? Probably not. Not really. Sure, they're probably not perfect. Even the things that you're thankful for might make you mad sometimes. But those two lists - those things are totally special, and they are completely yours. Don't sacrifice them, because it won't make you happy. And feel free to trash the first list...
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: fab gal, happiness, individuality, self esteem |
posted by Fab Gal @ 9:40 AM   |
|
|
|
|
 |
|
 |
| |
Monday, October 6, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| It's Time for a Makeover |
Hello Fab Gals!
Have you ever noticed how obsessed we all are with makeovers? Celebs get 'em about once a week. Magazines are always dishing out the latest way to makeover your wardrobe, your makeup bag, your love life. And everyone loves the classic makeove r movies - the nerdy girl gets all dressed up and wins the heart of the school hunk.
You know what? I think I am the queen of makeovers. No, actually Madonna is the queen of makeovers. But I'm definitely a big fan. I've tried different hair colors and different clothes, different music and different friends. I change my vision of who I want to be contstanly. I wish I could be more stable, more consistent. But the truth is, I really don't know what I want. I can't decide what hairstyle I'm going for any better than I can decide who I want to be.
We girls are in a pretty amazing position these days. Think about it - anyone from Oprah to Miley Cyrus to Hillary Clinton can be successful. The sky really is no limit. So it's no wonder we might not always no what we want, and it's definitely okay to start over. I think of it like shoes - maybe high heels are your thing, or cowboy boots. Or maybe you're more of a Nike girl. But you will certainly never know untill you've tried them all.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
Try some fun virtual makeovers at DressUpChallenge.Com. How have you made over your life? Let me know at The Fab Gal Myspace. Labels: fab gal, girls, individuality, makeover, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 10:26 AM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
Friday, October 3, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| Nobody's Perfect |
Hey FGs!
Nobody said it better than Hannah. And we all have that one day of the year to celebrate us, imperfections and all. But wouldn't it be nice to appreciate yourself every day? Very few of us do.
It's like this - we all have "that girl" in our life. The one that you almost hate because she is so nice and pretty and smart and confident. She dresses cute, has a million friends, and every guy is in love with her. All in all - she's perfect. Maybe "that girl" is a friend, someone in a movie, or just a vision in your head. But she's a constant reminder of how un-perfect you are.
It's a good thing to have role models, bu trying to be somebody else or someone's version of perfect isn't healthy, and it can definitely take its toll. When you have low self-esteem, it can lead to depression, eating disorders, and lots of stress. And it certainly won't make you happy. You most definitely deserve to be happy, perfect or not.
I can't say I have all the answers, because I've tried to be "that girl" many times in my life. I think that you have to remember that being unique or different or even a little dorky can be a good thing (just like Sydney White). Perfection, as pretty as it may seem, won't make you happy. Making the decision to be okay with yourself, just as imperfect and messy and wonderful as you are? It's a good start.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: fab gal, individuality, perfection, self esteem |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 9:27 AM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
Friday, August 22, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| Rise and Shine! |
Happy Friday, Fab Gals!
I don't know how many of you have started school yet, but the first week is always hard, isn't it?Especially if you're new there, which is the case for me. Being in a new environment and not knowing anyone very well can be really intimidating, especially when you are just trying to make a good impression and find where you fit in. That's how I have been spending my week - trying to find my group.
It's really funny how, when we're trying to make new friends, we spend our time seeing how we match up. Do they look like me? Have the same interests? Same personality? When you're trying so hard to fit in, it can be easy to get caught up trying to be like the people you want to impress. It seems natural that if you can seem cool and be "one of them," things will be good, because you'll have your place.
Something you should know about me: I am a little different. Not in a freaky way, like I wear cat pajamas to school or whatever, but I am definitely my own person. We Fab Gals, we're born to stand out, you know? And this whole week, I have been trying to push myself into place, to fit into this group or that one, and truthfully, I haven't been all that happy, because I haven't really gotten to be myself.
Like I said, when we think about groups of people, we think about how they are the same. But think about one person, someone you really admire. Don't you think about what's unique about them? Those things that make you different, those are the things that make you impressive. That, and having respect for yourself and everyone else. Being yourself means not everyone is going to like you. That's just the way it goes. It's like what Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different." You were born to stand out, FG, and if you let yourself, you won't have to worry about finding your place because you will always be in it.
I hope school is going alright for you, and that you get your chance to stand out. If you need me, remember that I can always be reached here, by email at fabgalsite@gmail.com, or at The Fab Gal Myspace.
xoxo
The Fab GalLabels: being yourself, fab gal, friends, individuality, school, teens |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 8:56 AM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
Wednesday, July 9, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| Do You Have "It"? |
Hey hey FGs!
We all love to talk about them. Sometimes we wish we could be them. The "it" girls of Hollywood - Miley, Rihanna, Hayden, Vanessa - so big you can forget their last names. We're obsessed, and maybe it's not such a bad thing. They have it - and you want it. And believe me, Fab Gals, you've definitely got it. Here's how to release your inner It Girl:
- Define your own style - Okay, so maybe they've got professional stylists and designer labels. Still, it doesn't seem to matter what they wear - they just look awesome! It's because they know what they like, and they wear it. Trendy doesn't stand out - defining your own style does.
- Own the Room - When they walk in, they're seen. But not because they make a scene. They've got confidence, and they're secure in themselves. So walk tall and smile, because you rock!
- Take the High Road - Sometimes, even the It Girls do something embarrassing. When that happens though, they don't lash out. They stay classy, and they learn from their mistakes, which makes all the difference.
- R-E-S-P-E-C-T - For themselves and for others. No bashing other girls, for sure. They also have the self-respect to take care of themselves and keep on the right track. Not always easy, but it pays off in the end.
- Work it! - What makes you different? What are you really good at? Use it! It girls know what their strengths are, and they rock what they've got! Showing off your skills will definitely make you stand out - in a good way.
You've got "it," Fab Gals, now it's time to go out there and use it! And keep me updated here or at fabgalsite@gmail.com. xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: fab gal, individuality, it girls, self-confidence |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 7:49 AM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
Friday, July 4, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| Declaration of Independence |
Hello FGs!
I want to send a Happy 4th of July to all of my Fab Gals in the US (and everyone else, too!). What a great day! In honor of this totally Fab country, I want to talk to you about what you do that makes you independent.
No matter where you live, you should value the opportunities that women have been gaining over the past years. There are women breaking ground in every field - politics, science, fashion, entertainment, you name it. I hate to sound like a mom, but seriously! You have no idea what amazing things you can do now. For the first time ever, a woman was able to be a real contender in the race for president. No matter what party your from, that is an astounding accomplishment.
It's also important to remember, as an independant woman, that it's okay to do what you want to do. Sometimes even the people that want the best for you don't know what's best for you. Value your own independence, and follow your pursuit of happiness. I mean, the Declaration said so, right?
Anyways, where I was going is this - it's a marvelous time to be a Fab Gal, no matter where you live. So celebrate that today. I hope you have a totally Fab holiday, my little firecrackers!
xoxo
The Fab Gal
Labels: fab gal, goals, independence, individuality, opportunities |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 8:57 AM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
Monday, June 23, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| We Rock! We Rock! We Rock On! |
Hey there Fab Gals!
I don't know about you, but I had to watch Camp Rock this weekend... and then two times more. I confess: I love musicals, and I love the Jonas Brothers. Even still, the reasons I loved it so much was I could totally relate to Mitchie, and I'm pretty sure every Fab Gal can in some way. Mitchie is a girl with a dream, who unfortunately has been "invisible" for too long. She keeps herself that way, because she's afraid. She's afraid the person she is isn't someone worth any attention, but she is so wrong. When we're not sure of ourselves, we do bad things - like lying that our mom is the president of Hot Tunes China when she's really a cook. Yikes! So some of us haven't gone that far, but we all know what it's like - lying, being with someone who's mean to us to be popular, hiding who we are, trying to blend in. But that is no way to live our lives. All movie long, we think: Gosh Mitchie! What are you doing? You are so talented and beautiful and unique! Why are you letting Tess push you around? You could be kissing Shayne right now! Okay, so that's what I was thinking. Of course, this is a movie - real life isn't as obvious sometimes. But for all you know, someone around you might be thinking the same thing. Once you decide to live your life your way, things will fall into place, and you won't have to be invisible. You, Fab Gal, deserve to be the star of your life - no one else! Who knows what's waiting for you - new friends, fabulous opportunities, a Jonas Brother - to stop hiding and start being who you want to be.  What about you, FG? Did you watch Camp Rock? Love it? Hate it? Have you been hiding who you really are? Leave a comment to let me know (see the "how-to" guide on the left for help!). No more hiding who I want to be...This is me
xoxo
The Fab Gal
Labels: being yourself, Camp Rock, fab gal, individuality, self-confidence |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 10:39 AM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
Monday, June 16, 2008 |
|
|
|
|
| |
| Labeled |
Hey there FGs!
I don't know about your school, but at ours, yearbooks are a BIG deal. Everyone loves to see how many times their picture got in, and they really love to guess what the theme will be, even though it's usually pretty silly. This year, the theme was "Labeled," and the cover was filled with all the things our student body can be labeled as. They were all nice things - outgoing, athletic, memorable - but it made me think: Are labels ever really a good thing?
We label people for convenience, like "Carrie, she's smart, she can help me with my math homework," or "Adrienne is a cheerleader, so she must know everyone at school." Athlete. Blonde. Nerd. Whatever. Especially when we're younger, and our world seems a little crazy, it makes things easier to just categorize people and not think about it.
Some labels are supposed to be positive, like the ones on our yearbooks, but there's a problem: they don't leave room for change. Sure, maybe today you are the shy, smart girl in the back of the class, but maybe tomorrow you want to be something different. Some will welcome the change, but people who are stuck on labels will miss it. Either way it doesn't really matter. It's like my friend J-Lo said: "You know who you are. Focus on that. Other people will see that eventually." It doesn't matter where you end up in the yearbook - how you see yourself is so much more important.
You, Fab Gal, are not a can of soup. You don't need to be labeled. Don't live up to someone's expectations - live up to your own. Don't be something - be yourself. Live above the labels and leave room for change.
How have you been labeled, FG? Do you put labels on other people? Are they really a bad thing? Leave a comment to let me know what you think.
xoxo
The Fab Gal
FG Update: The Fab Gal will very soon be moving to a new home - http://thefabgal.com/. Perfect for us, right? Keep checking back, more updates to come!Labels: change, fab gal, individuality, Labels, yearbooks |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 12:58 PM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
