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Saturday, August 8, 2009 |
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| Broken Up, But Not Broken |
Hello FGs!
Okay, so maybe I can't tell you which guys are the good guys and which ones are the bad boys, or if it even matters anyway. But I do know this much: When it comes to break-ups, they always hurt, no matter what kind of guy it is. You've probably heard lots of heartbreak remedies: double chocolate-chocolate chip ice cream, burning the memories, GNOs, and lots of tears. All of those things might work for a bit. But I want to give you a few new ideas, that just might get you through a little bit easier... and maybe with a few less regrets.
- Let the Music Play. Music has amazing powers. Maybe even more so than chocolate. You can always find a song that fits what you're feeling. It's an amazing thing to hear Taylor (or Miley or Ashley or whoever you love) sing your heart out. So find some tunes, close the door, and just listen.
- Keep Your Distance. After a big breakup or nasty fight, you can be fuming with things to say to that nasty so-and-so. But before you hit "send" or go banging down his door, wait. It probably won't help, and you need to give both of you a chance to clear your head. So hold onto those thoughts for a week. Then you'll know what you really want to say.
- Put Out the Fire. You've heard "Picture to Burn," right? Well, that can sound like a totally awesome and rebellious way to get him out of your system, fast. Pictures, lovey-dovey notes, his old sweatshirt... you want it all gone, and fast. But please, do this for me: hold onto a couple of those souvenirs. Someday, way, way down the road, you just might miss having a few memories from that someone who once meant a lot.
- Do it Your Way. Everyone has their own way of dealing with tough stuff. Some people like to journal, write songs, run, talk with friends, or spend some time alone. Or maybe even all of the above. Whatever works for you, do it. Give yourself time (and permission) to scream, cry, think and feel whatever you need to feel. It really will help you move on in the end.
- And, like always, Love Yourself. Break-ups suck. But don't ever beat yourself up for it, no matter what anyone says or does. Be thankful for the experience. When you're ready, life will move on with you. No matter how broken up you feel now, it really will be alright.
I mean, come on, you're a Fab Gal! So, FGs, I want to know - how do you deal with break-ups? What advice would you give to a friend going through one? Leave a comment to share your FG tips! xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: advice, boys, breakups, dating, fab gal, relationships, teens |
posted by Fab Gal @ 8:42 PM   |
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Friday, May 29, 2009 |
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| Love Lessons From A Vampire |
Hello Fab Gals!
Now that summer is here, I've been indulging in some of my faves - shopping, laying in the sun, and of course, reading. My latest guilty pleasure: the Twilight series. If you've seen the movie, I promise, the books are even better (Edward Cullen is twice as gorgeous in my head). Anyways, not to give too much away, but I got to a high-drama point in the book: Bella comes to a crossroads, and even though she knows she made the right choice, she realizes her heart is really in two totally separate places. And it made me wonder, Is it possible that your heart never really lets go?
When I was little, I believed in The One. Mr. Right. A Prince Charming so perfect that he could make you forget every heartbreak, bad date, and all the crushes in-between. I thought you were given one true love, one soulmate. It might be possible. But the real world of dating, of love - it's all a little bit more complicated, I think. Sometimes we meet a few maybe-someday-Mr. Rights, and have to make some choices. Sometimes things just don't work out. And sometimes we do find Great Love, only to finish with a not-so-happy ending.
I so often hear people give advice to someone who has just gone through heartbreak like: "Time heals all wounds" or "You'll get over it soon enough" or even "Just forget him, already!" However, I've also learned that this advice is not only a bit of an extra burn, but it might not even be true at all. Maybe we never really have to "get over" someone, completely. Maybe there's no need to dump out every feeling we have for that person with their old sweatshirts and burned photographs. Maybe our hearts aren't made of limited-space-only. Maybe it's okay to leave that space, the memories, the love, and of course, the lessons, right where they are. Not erase it, but just see it for what it is. And maybe we can then trust once we get there, we'll know when we've found that one who deserves not only one place in our heart, but in our thoughts, our lives, and our hand.
xoxo
The Fab Gal Labels: boys, breakups, fab gal, relationships, Twilight |
| posted by Fab Gal @ 3:11 PM |
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