Hello FGs!
Okay, so maybe I can't tell you which guys are the good guys and which ones are the bad boys, or if it even matters anyway. But I do know this much: When it comes to break-ups, they always hurt, no matter what kind of guy it is. You've probably heard lots of heartbreak remedies: double chocolate-chocolate chip ice cream, burning the memories, GNOs, and lots of tears. All of those things might work for a bit. But I want to give you a few new ideas, that just might get you through a little bit easier... and maybe with a few less regrets.
- Let the Music Play. Music has amazing powers. Maybe even more so than chocolate. You can always find a song that fits what you're feeling. It's an amazing thing to hear Taylor (or Miley or Ashley or whoever you love) sing your heart out. So find some tunes, close the door, and just listen.
- Keep Your Distance. After a big breakup or nasty fight, you can be fuming with things to say to that nasty so-and-so. But before you hit "send" or go banging down his door, wait. It probably won't help, and you need to give both of you a chance to clear your head. So hold onto those thoughts for a week. Then you'll know what you really want to say.
- Put Out the Fire. You've heard "Picture to Burn," right? Well, that can sound like a totally awesome and rebellious way to get him out of your system, fast. Pictures, lovey-dovey notes, his old sweatshirt... you want it all gone, and fast. But please, do this for me: hold onto a couple of those souvenirs. Someday, way, way down the road, you just might miss having a few memories from that someone who once meant a lot.
- Do it Your Way. Everyone has their own way of dealing with tough stuff. Some people like to journal, write songs, run, talk with friends, or spend some time alone. Or maybe even all of the above. Whatever works for you, do it. Give yourself time (and permission) to scream, cry, think and feel whatever you need to feel. It really will help you move on in the end.
- And, like always, Love Yourself. Break-ups suck. But don't ever beat yourself up for it, no matter what anyone says or does. Be thankful for the experience. When you're ready, life will move on with you. No matter how broken up you feel now, it really will be alright.
I mean, come on, you're a Fab Gal! So, FGs, I want to know - how do you deal with break-ups? What advice would you give to a friend going through one? Leave a comment to share your FG tips! xoxo The Fab Gal Labels: advice, boys, breakups, dating, fab gal, relationships, teens |
