The Fab Gal

That's so crazy to think about. I guess I always thought girls who had it all - you know, being a mega-successful TV actress/movie star/singer - would know it, too. You'd think that being the superstar on the cover would make you feel super-confident. And Miley's not the only one. Pink, the tough-as-nails pop star, told a magazine she's okay with the fact that she's not a "cover girl" - when she was on the cover herself!

I'm not telling you this to make you feel less confident. Oh, if the real cover girls don't feel beautiful, how can I ever feel that way myself? The opposite is true. In fact, you could be struggling with cover girl blindness yourself, like Miley or Pink - not seeing yourself as beautiful/smart/talented/amazing as you are, even when signs say it's true. When you're feeling down, facing a challenge, or having an off day, it's easy to believe that any negative thoughts or self-doubts you have are true, that you really aren't good enough. That's when you have to remember that your thoughts don't always represent the beautiful truth - that you are Fab just how you are. Cover girls don't always feel like cover girls. And sometimes, Fab Gals don't feel like Fab Gals.

xoxo

The Fab Gal

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Hey FGs!

I don't know how much you pay attention to celebrity gossip, but there has been a lot of buzz about Miley Cyrus and her new bf. The 16-year-old is dating Justin Gaston, a singer/model who is 20 years old. Just as with anything that a celebrity does, there has been a lot of criticism - many are saying that he's way too old for her. Of course, I don't want to judge her or say she's a bad person, but I think this brings up an interesting question: How old is too old when it comes to boyfriends/girlfriends?

When you're an adult, it seems like age doesn't really matter. But when you're young, it seems like even just a few years can be a big deal. The rules seem to be more flexible in high school than in middle school. But still, when is the age difference okay, and where does it cross the line? Is 1 year okay, or 2 years? Does it matter if one of you is over 18? Or is it okay as long as your friends (or parents or siblings) say so?

Of course, the answer is complicated, and it probably depends a lot on the situation. Part of the difficulty is that if the age gap is large, the two of you are probably in completely different stages of life, which come with different issues, needs, and expectations. But if you are serious about making it work, there's a few things you can do: First off, be completely open with your parents about your relationship. They'll probably be worried at first, but they're parents, and that's their job. If you have to keep it hidden, it's probably not a good sign. Second, you will have to be prepared for people to be skeptical. If people don't get it, then it's best to just let it roll off -there's no need for you to change their mind. And finally - respect your limits. Dating someone older might seem really exciting, but there's no need to rush into anything.

xoxo

The Fab Gal

What's your take on girls dating older guys (or the other way around)? Leave a comment to let me know your thoughts.

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Hey Fab Gals!

So I try my best to stay aways from the celebrity gossip scene, because I know how nasty and (mostly) untrue it is. But there was one recent piece that caught my attention: the Miley Cyrus photos. There was the infamous Vogue shoot, but even before that there were some silly pictures of her and her friends at a slumber party. After the first set, people labeled her as gross, inappropriate, and a lesbian. Then after the Vogue pics, outrage ensued – and people were calling to have her kicked of Hannah Montana.

What this made me wonder is this: Why are we so angry? Sure, over the past year, Miley has become a role model for millions of young girls, and I think for the most part she has been a stellar one. But she also a 15 year-old, a living, breathing teenage girl. She won’t get it right all the time. But we put celebrities at this super-high level, like they’re our Barbie dolls, or the cool kids we’ll never be. Then when they fall down, it’s hard to remember that they really aren’t part of a different world. Maybe it’s jealousy, maybe it’s our expectations for ourselves, whatever – but it’s not fair.

Then when parents started calling for her to be removed from her own show, I was stunned. Of course, they were worried about what kind of example she was setting for their daughters, but what message would it send if they kicked her off? That if you mess up, that’s it – no second chances? I’ll be perfectly honest: I know that somewhere, in the messy corners of my closet, that I too have some silly, goofy photos from slumber parties past that yea, okay, I would be really embarrassed if anyone saw. But that doesn’t make me a bad girl, and I would like to think that no one would respect me any less if they got into the wrong hands.

Fab Gals are bound to mess up, but they know that it’s all about handling your mistakes with style and class. Miley  proved her Fab Gal status – she apologized to whomever she offended, learned her lesson, and moved on. Case closed.

What do you think Fab Gal, do we put too much pressure on young celebs? How would you want to be treated if you were in Miley’s position? How do you handle your slip-ups?

Let me know what you think FGs, and check back tomorrow for the countdown of my top 10 fave Fab Gals.

xoxo

The Fab Gal

P.S. - Below is a video of the Miley & Mandy show, Miley Cyrus’s Youtube web show with her BFF. Totally unrelated, but it’s fun to see what two Fab Gals will do with a camera…

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